Have you ever felt like your life is just happening to you, like it’s passing you by and you’re just trying to keep up with how quickly it’s moving? This is how I used to feel and I always thought I was alone in feeling like that, but the more people I talked to, the more I realized how common of a feeling it is. It’s not necessarily connected to feeling unhappy, it’s more of a feeling of aimlessness, like I’m busy doing things that feel unconnected and unimportant.
thriving / ‘thri-ving / adjective prosperous and growing; flourishing
intentionally / in-‘tench-ne-le / adverb deliberately; on purpose
One day I was watching an old speech by Zig Ziglar on YouTube and he said something that really resonated with me:
“Don’t confuse activity with accomplishment.”
That brought so much clarity to what I was feeling! I was working hard, making good money, travelling a lot, had a great marriage and great friends, but I felt like no matter how busy I was, no matter how many projects I completed, I didn’t feel like I was accomplishing anything. There was no intentionality to my growth, learning, and development.
You can thrive in every area of your life. Choose to learn, to deepen your knowledge and thrive intellectually. Choose to practice empathy, learn to listen and thrive socially. Set a budget, get out of debt and thrive financially.
I used to struggle with the idea of intentionality. I thought that the starting point for living an intentional life was having a long-term vision for my entire life, to know exactly where I wanted to be 25 years from now. This was very intimidating to me. I now realize it’s actually the opposite, it’s about being intentional each day with every decision I make. It’s about knowing the general direction I want to head and making sure each decision lines up with that. I have no idea what my life will look like in 25 years (which I find kind of exciting), but I know that if I am intentional with my time, my money, and my decisions, I will be somewhere that I have chosen to be and right now, that’s enough of a plan for me.
Each day we make hundreds of choices and I choose to believe that through our choices we can be intentional to thrive. When you’re on YouTube, don’t watch another cat video, but check out one of thousands of amazing TED talks. When you’re sitting waiting for an appointment, read an inspiring book instead of scrolling through Facebook. When you get paid, budget carefully rather than splurging on an expensive night out [again]. When opportunities come up at work, be the first to raise your hand, don’t just wait and hope your boss will speak to you. Each day we can choose to become smarter, wiser, richer, and more successful than we were the day before.
Thriving in every area of our lives is a choice, and I am looking forward to taking back control and being more intentional about where I am headed. As I learn and make deliberate decisions I expect I’ll learn a lot, grow a lot, and I look forward to sharing my experience with all of you.
Thanks for reading!